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A true and messy story

This story I am sharing is a true story. It is designed to show you what I mean about no one else is going to do it for you.

This is a picture of my kitchen one morning during the last school holidays. For context, both Israel and Rilien were on holidays. I was still working and trying to fit in time with them too.

On the morning when the kitchen was like this, Israel and Rilien had already left the house to go play basketball. They were totally oblivious to the state of the kitchen. I found myself totally P'd off.

Here I was having to clean the kitchen and go to work whilst they went off and played. 😤

I was huffing and puffing to myself, saying all the curses under the sun. I was ready to forgo walking on the beach before work. Then my coach Lisa Carpenter popped into my head.

 ➡️ rest is a success strategy
 ➡️ no one is coming to save you
 ➡️ do you have to clean the kitchen before work
 ➡️ what message are you sending Israel and Rilien in doing this?

I have a whole lot of Lisa_ism's in my tool kit. I recognised in that moment I was choosing the clean kitchen over taking care of myself. 🤦‍♀️

No one is coming to save me, except me.

So I took myself out for that walk.

It was a glorious day, the sun was shining and I went from huffing and puffing, full of resentment to feeling on the top of the world. 💃

And here's the thing, when I was out on that walk, I resolved the kitchen was not all my responsibility. I was going to ask Israel to do it for me.

When I got home, I left that kitchen as it was. I went up to my office, still feeling on top of the world and started work. I was in a meeting when the boys got home and by the time I got down to the house, both of them were cleaning the kitchen. Like Magic! I didn't even have to ask them.

To think, I almost chose a clean kitchen over a clean bill of mental health for myself that morning.

I'm curious about whether you can see yourself in this story. 

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